You WILL fail

Yes, you WILL fail. Now that’s not a headline you usually see in our “you can do it!” culture of positive thinking and personal achievement. But it’s true. You WILL fail – sometimes. Welcome to humanity!

I just finished one of those failure kinda days: I yelled, I hollered, I was mean and nasty, I was impatient and frustrated, …if you know the Love chapter in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13,  well, that was not what I represented today as the leader of my children 🙁

They are all in bed now and I sit here glumly. Sad. Disappointed. With myself, not them. My cuppa’s gone cold. Like my heart feels. I think it’s not just because I know I failed but that I failed in my most acclaimed and treasured leadership role – to my kids.

My head finally takes over: how can I make this a helpful lesson for you and a step forward for me?

I googled “failure” and found this gem to share with you: ‎

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford

(I’m sure you’ve heard of Henry Ford – he is the guy who founded the Ford Motor Company at the start of the 20th century. Although we now know him for his success, Ford understood failure: his first TWO companies failed dismally and it was only third time around that he was able to make a success of his dream.)

Then I saw a book by John Maxwell (a 21st century leadership guru) with this great title: Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success
 It’s about how to make the most out of your leadership mistakes and keep moving forward.

Hmmm – are you thinking what I am?? Could there be something to salvage out of a leadership failure day?? I realised:

  • My bad day can stop right here – it can become an opportunity to begin again
  • I can review my day and see what lessons can be learned
  • In the morning I’ll say sorry to my children for my failure today
  • And I will start afresh tomorrow, applying my newfound understanding and lead more cleverly because of my failure today.

I am suddenly feeling much more positive! Time to go make a fresh, hot cuppa to drink while I contemplate starting again tomorrow…

What about you? I KNOW you can relate (just ‘coz you’re human!). How do you handle those inevitable failures as you lead your kids?

2 comments to You WILL fail

  • Christina

    Hi Jenni, thanks for your article about failure. It’s not a coincidence that i’m reading it today, as I had one of those ‘failure’ days today with Lucy, my almost 2yr old daughter. I’m feeling so bad now for barking at her and being impatient with her today. It’s not the way I should be treating her at all.
    I am grateful that there is a second chance at it….and hopefully tomorrow is a better day! 🙂

    • Jenni Chacko

      Christina! Hang in there precious lady. Mothering is probably the most challenging leadership role you will ever take on. It is also the most rewarding, but some days we need to remind ourselves of this 🙂 You are not alone, every mother understands how you are feeling. Praying for a positive day for you today, with the rewards of mothering being blatantly obvious and enjoyable!

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