The Journey or the Destination?

I have recently found myself focusing too much on ‘the destination’. For me the daily destination is simple: get everyone to bed on time so I can have a little time to myself!

I think most mothers understand this feeling. Problem is, this has become my primary focus from the time we all get out of bed in the morning! Hmmmm – something not quite right there, huh?

I know WHY I’m so focused on the destination – I’ve been totally overwhelmed with life! Not just my life (which currently includes a ruptured eardrum and the associated giddiness/pain), but managing life for four busy kids, one travelling husband and a rapidly growing organisation. No wonder everyone-in-bed-at-the-end-of-the-day is such an appealing destination. 🙂

Over the last few days some enforced rest with my ruptured eardrum has given me some unexpected reflection time. And I made a startling realisation: being so focused on the destination is sapping the joy from the journey.

If you google “journey destination quote” you’ll find a heap of variations.

  • Life is a journey not a destination
  • Happiness is a journey not a destination
  • Success is a journey not a destination

And I’d like to add one more that I didn’t find.

  • Motherhood is a journey not a destination.

In fact, when it comes to leading our children, I think it goes one step further…

The. Journey. Is. The. Destination.

As soon as we lose focus on the journey, we are almost certain to fail reaching our ultimate destination: great kids becoming great adults.

The leadership principle at stake here is: leadership by example. You can’t lead your team to a place you are not willing to go yourself.

So for all us practical mothers, this means showing your kids how to do the journey well. It means

  • taking time to enjoy one another, the events, the places you go every day
  • laughing out loud WITH your kids
  • cuddling on the couch for story and prayer time, even if it is 15 minutes past bedtime (that elusive destination :))
  • making tough choices of self-discipline (part of setting the example)
  • teaching life skills without getting mad or frustrated

What about you? Does this resonate in your leadership as a mother? How do you focus on doing the journey well with your kids? Leave a comment so we can all learn together.

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